You don't have a clue what mercy is yet. Figure it out, and practice doling it out generously to those you love, especially Nick. Otherwise, it will be a hard lesson to learn.
Cherish your time with your step dad. Visit Nanny. Make a special trip to see Great Grandma and Great Grandpa. Tell Nick to spend more time with his dad. In three years, they will all be gone.
Don't buy that Camry. Save money and make do until you can afford something more reliable. You will put more money into the Camry than you've paid for it.
Don't look at each educational opportunity as how it fits into a specific career. Learn all you can about all you can, and enjoy it while you do.
On that note, be open to all possibilities. Twenty-one is young. Don't feel rushed to choose a path. Enjoy what you do. Every day.
If you're going to invest in furniture/household items, buy black or white. Your tastes will change. Someday, you'll appreciate modern details. You'll also enjoy decorating, and you can change out colors easily if you have a colorless background.
Eat healthy foods now. Start a REGULAR exercise routine - you'll be more likely to stick with it.
Your wedding will be the most memorable day of your life, regardless of how much you spend on it. Take all the money you receive and put it in a savings account. You'll never know when you'll need it.
Get Nick to a doctor. Make him go once a year. If he's feeling icky and can't get to a doctor, take him to urgent care. If he needs to go to the ER from there, they'll let you know. Don't take him to the ER first, even if you're not sure. When it's time to go to the ER, you won't doubt it. This will save you THOUSANDS of dollars.
Encourage Nick to apply to medical school as soon as he's ready. Make it easy on him to complete his schooling first. You can finish an undergrad degree later.
BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. Don't make any major decisions that affect your future or current happiness based on "shoulds". Your future is yours to make. DO WHAT YOU LOVE!!! If you have to ask yourself if you could be happy in a particular field, it's not for you.
Having children will change your life. It will no longer be yours, but will belong to someone else. I don't know this from having my own children, but by helping others with theirs.
Enjoy your twenties. You will end up spending most of them in school. You will not have children in a year or two, or even three or four. At twenty-five, you'll realize that was a good choice and will be grateful you waited. Don't plan to have children until after you and Nick can have genetic carrier testing.
Do not smoke. Ever.
Do not judge others. Ever. Remember the mercy rule.
Do not tolerate bad behavior against you. There should be no mercy here. Be stern. Learn what it means to stand your ground. Don't speak, act. Teach others how to treat you. Don't allow them to think it's okay to mistreat you.
If others continue to mistreat you, cut them out of your life, regardless of their relationship to you. We all deserve the opportunity for a peaceful existence.
You don't have it all figured out. Your faith will waver. Your faith will grow. Truly, faith will become a choice to believe even in the face of evidence to the contrary. It doesn't matter where you go to church, or if you even go at all. Faith is a highly personal thing and is nobody's business but your own. Your journey is your journey, alone. Don't seek the answers in a church. Find them by seeking God, not by seeking the herd.
Your dog will love you no matter what.
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